Monday, April 23, 2012

to be changed

it is becoming increasingly apparent that some of my core friendships are going through a season. a season of absence. a season of distance. a season of resistance. while other friendships are growing and being strengthened, the ones that used to matter the most seem to be rapidly unraveling.

and i'm somewhere in the middle. should there be great effort poured out to save the ones that are diminishing? or should focus be placed on the ones developing. this choice seems a necessary one to make, because there is not heart strength for doing both.

the truth is, that not only are my friendships in a different season, I am a person being changed by my own season. those that know me best probably feel that they don't know me at all anymore. and that is okay. but for me, I want friends that are willing to walk through "the changing" with me. isn't that what you would want?

though I am uncertain as to how this season will end or lead into another, I am confident it will. winter always ends up succumbing to spring. spring to summer, summer to fall. it all ends and begins again. to me, it is a beautiful thing. to be changed by the circumstances around you. leaves change colors and flowers bloom and the sun shines and the rain falls. all altering it's environment. leaving some things weathered, other things refreshed.

to resist a season is impossible. you ride a season out. you lean into it. you glean from it. you learn the wind patterns and how to smell the rain.

and you come out dead or alive. and i have determination; to come out alive, with or without you. and I am challenged to choose peace regardless of your choice.

Saturday, April 21, 2012

"you just gotta"

I don't want to envy everyone else's happiness anymore. Those of you who love your job make me sick. Not sick in the angry way, sick in the jealous way. And I realize that you're happy because you have a dream and you're living it. I have bought into the delusion that if what you do brings YOU joy, it must bring me joy, too.

Anthropology brings Dr. Temperance Brennan joy and thrill on the show Bones. (don't laugh at me.) Being a missionary brings my friends Ryan and Laci purpose and joy. Being a stay at home mom brings my friend Casey joy. Being a nurse brings my friend Amanda joy. Being on the radio brings my friend Denee' joy and excitement. Working in an office brings my friend Julie joy. Being a Physician Assistant brings Kelbie really funny stories. Being an advisor at Paul Mitchell school brings Elizabeth laughter and new friends. My friend Chelsea owns her own business and she is a success. My friend Christy teaches voice and loves it.

And I'm a nurse. I kind of loathe it. I have no compassion anymore. And because I don't like it, I think that doing whatever you're doing will fix me. If it makes you happy, won't it bring me satisfaction, too? No wonder I can't pinpoint what to do next. You all have laid out so many options... and I continue to process through these new thoughts.

A dark bitterness remains deep within me toward the God. What has been real; what has been fake? Will the truth ever appear? Wrestling with even wanting it to surface. I would prefer a silent sinkWhy the hell am I here? Twenty-three, a bitter nurse, lost, and disconnected from the One who created me. Come on, God...You gotta know better than this...you just gotta.

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

It's this music...

It's this music... John Fluker's Sound of Peace is currently playing out of Pandora. There are so many forms of music, and all of it shares small secrets about it's composer. So many composers. Each expressing themselves through the combination of the keys. I desperately want in on it.

I have said for the last several years that I am not the artsy type. I am not creative. I do not have the patience for crafts. Pinterest stresses me out.

But when I reflect, I remember that I am creative and artsy and a composer of sorts. It was what I did. It was who I was. As I listen to all this music, I envision myself at the piano. Or I see myself directing a band in what I, myself, have written for them.

Could it be possible? Could it be possible to do all of these dreams? Could it be possible to be a nurse and a musician and a missionary and a wife and a mommy?

Monday, April 16, 2012

to be certain

To be certain of just one thing I wish I could be.

To have that one truth that doubt cannot creep in on.

I know who God is. But, I'm not so certain He is my truth.

How can a God as big as He is, not be so finite with a future for me?

God as omniscient as He is, He stunts me.

God restrains me. He must. Otherwise...

...I could figure out who I am supposed to be. I promise; whatever it is, I will be it well. nurse, musician, missionary, wife, mommy, doctor, manager. I can do it. please, just tell me, what.is.it.? and please, don't make me be a nurse forever. God knows I hate it so.

I understand it's impossible, but I feel like He's lied to me. Is all this uncertainty truly plans to prosper me, to give me hope and a future? (Jeremiah 29:11). Is all this questioning truly instructing me in the way of wisdom and leading me along straight paths? (Proverbs 4:11). If what the Word says is true, why isn't He doing it?

Psalm 27:14 says, "Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord." 

Pardon? Wait for what?

Sunday, April 15, 2012

Made For

So, I met this guy, Michael, Wednesday night. Don't get your panties in a wad, he lives in Washington and that sort of settles it. But, he was sweet. We talked about a lot, and one was a mutual love of music. Not the radio kind, but the deep rich sounds of Chopin and Mozart.

Michael is a classical pianist who was pressured by his uncle to pursue a "real job." In the same way, several well-meaning family members of my own pressured the same thing on me. I cried myself to sleep for months due to internal conflict; music-my life, or nursing-good money, steady job? Their suggestions were wise, and I felt I would fall flat on my face in life if I didn't choose what they said.

I remember thinking that Fall of 2007, "If I choose nursing, will there ever come a day when I will regret not choosing music?" 

Today, my friends, at approximately 7:08 PM, I felt the weight of that regret. 

You see, I made mention a few weeks ago about buying a piano and picking up lessons. Even considered repairing my clarinet's padding. I made mental note to remember to bring my guitar back here from my hometown, where it's sat since my last move.

I don't think meeting Michael from Barnes and Noble was an accident or unplanned. That night, I remembered that I'm worth investing into. I remembered to chase my dreams. I remembered that only I can be wholly me. 

I love to make music. It's my other half. It's what completes me. In soul, in mind, and in strength. It's what I was made for.

Saturday, April 14, 2012

egg vomit and corn poop

I'm fairly certain that Jesus did not say the "F" word. However, I, in all my sinful glory, did at work today. On my way to lunch. Frustrated by not being able to meet the demands of six ill patients. Angry because they needed more than I could disperse between so many of them.

I need a pain pill. I am cold. I need fresh water. My IV is beeping. Could you call my doctor?

I can't do it all. I can't do it all as fast as they want it done. No, I can't give you your test results, because I'm not a doctor. No, I can't consult another physician, because I'm not a doctor. No, I can't give you a pain pill at the same time his IV is beeping while talking to her doctor with one phone on one ear and my charge nurse on the other. I can't do it all.

I have been trying very hard to not complain at work. But, can I be honest and just say that I am so tired? Tired of failing miserably at an attempt to please the sick customer. I was not made for this. Not made for being a nurse.

I don't like the blue scrubs everyday, or the hair in a ponytail, or the long hours. I hate the cafeteria food because it makes me fatter. I hate waking up at 5:15 AM. I hate military time. I hate medical jargon. I hate being a nurse. I hate that it all makes me say the "F" word. I hate that I have no compassion anymore. I hate that I'm expected to clean up egg vomit, corn poop, and metallic smelling blood without gagging.

I loathe even more than I'm paying some dumb lender $30,000 (+) in order to even do it.

What in all the world was I thinking? What in all of creation was HE thinking?


eff

What am I made for?

Wednesday, April 11, 2012

...and this is conditional love.

I am sad. The tears-fall-down type sad. It seems as if so many of you think I've turned all evil and black inside. This is far from the truth. And it makes me so sad.

I apologize that I'm not able to work through this the way that you deem best. And I'm sorry that you take offense to the deepest hurt and questions of MY heart. I am sorry that I cannot meet the expectations that you seem to feel is so capable for me to reach.

I DO love Jesus. Granted, I haven't been able to so freely say that as of late, but I do. If I didn't, I wouldn't be taking the measures of seeking help.

Let me be plain. Some of you aren't helping. You know who you are. You're accusing. And if I was someone else, your responses would make me easily throw up my hands to the cause of Jesus.

I've never talked about you, accused you, or called you out. In fact, I've tried to always be encouraging and lend an open ear to hear whatever your hearts have had to say. It's disappointing and hurtful that many of you can't seem to return the same.

He never cut someone off.

Just do your thing. Leave me to mine.

Sunday, April 8, 2012

#hatday #funday #sunday

I couldn't bring myself to walk into church doors this morning.

I drove to Mountain View yesterday to say "see ya later" to my 18 year old sister that moved to Texas this morning. I stayed the night with my grandparents. My other sister, Shelby, wanted me to go to church with her. So, I woke up early, got dressed, and started the hour drive to her church. I pulled into the parking lot, and I was early. My family is late.

I pulled out my tweezers and started to pluck at unwanted hairs. (You can always see better in the car mirrors...) Then, I just got mad.

What the hell do you really think you are doing here? You don't want to celebrate the risen Christ. You aren't even truly serving the risen Christ. You panic over taking communion, can you really sit through an entire service in an unfamiliar place pretending to worship the one you are so skeptical of?

So I drove away. I called my mother and my father to let them know, but neither one answered their phones. Oh well, they'll figure it out when they don't see me there. And back on the road to Springfield I went.

I could go to the West Campus of James River's service. They have a late service. Or, I could just not go anywhere. Wait a second... Not go anywhere on Easter Sunday? A Sunday that even non-believers seem to make it out of the woods to attend church on? And I can't seem to bring myself to even WANT to go in.


Today: it's just another day. I will place my hat, jacket, and flip flops on, grab my laptop, journal, and purse, and head to the nearest Panera to write this blog and journal write and people watch.

And marvel at those who have as much joy in the risen Jesus as I once did. And question how they have sustained it. And ponder what truth is really true. And reflect on goodness being God-given or circumstantial.

....and so I write.

Wednesday, April 4, 2012

...you should choose Him

This time last year, I remember.

I remember because I was so excited about this coming Sunday. Resurrection Sunday, they call it. Easter. The excitement in my soul was invigorating. I cried reflecting on His sacrifice Good Friday, but knew that joy came riding in on Sunday morning.


Everyone around me knew that Easter was coming. I couldn't keep quiet about it. I text messaged friends, I Facebook status-ed it, and I talked nonstop about it at work. The day I celebrated most. My favorite "holiday"...even topping Christmas. He was born on Christmas, but I celebrate being SAVED on Easter.

Tonight during service, I remembered last year. Which enabled me to compare that excitement to the melancholy this week.

They prayed for unsaved people tonight. That loved ones would come to know Him as their Savior on Sunday. That many people would come to church on Sunday and hear the Good News.

I prayed. I did. It felt unnatural. But I prayed for you who have never experienced Him. That you would. Test it for yourself.

Because I know what life is like with Him and without Him. It is somewhat less complicated with Him. Despite my current thoughts on some issues, I know that you would be better off with Him. Saved, actually...and loved by Him.

This year is different for me, but regardless of where my heart lies right now, you should choose Him.

un-title-able

my room is cluttered and disorganized. my blackout curtains (from night shift work) still hang on panel nails. one black cross hangs on the wall across from the head of my bed. one mirror hangs beside my door. oh, and i just pinned up a painting from haiti above my headboard.


my soul aches a little bit today. i feel lonely. even though i spent a two hour brunch with friends from work, then headed to meet up with another friend for another hour.


now here i am in bed. because i. am. so. tired. could be just from working so much lately. but, also, when i sleep, i don't have to think. i'm not worried about the issues i can't seem to work through. i'm not bothering others with text messages or Facebook posts. i'm not alone. i simply listen to music and hope for a drift off to some light hearted dreamland.


tonight is a church night. and i do not want to go. i want to drink the full bottle of moscato i picked up from HyVee earlier. i want to pour a hot bath, and generously fill a glass of this sweet stuff, and then pour a second, and a third one.


i remember feeling hope in Jesus. being hope-full. of something greater and of something more than the here and now. i do not sense that now. i sense a lulling. a dull, numb, hopeless ache. a silent truth that screams there is nothing more. that i stay where i am because the truth is, the truth IS, that there is nothing more. and even if there were, i am not good enough for Him to get to it.


and a sense of hatred toward the One i was once willing to die for overwhelms me.
and it still shocks me.
un-redeeming.


yet, the Word of God says,


"If your heart is broken, you'll find God right there; if you're kicked in the gut, he'll help you catch your breath." Psalm 34:18 (MSG)


this is not my truth right now. but, i kind of really wish it was. hate Him/love Him...it's back and forth. i'll never be who i was ever again. can i love Him like i used to love Him? can i be unshakeable in Him? will He heal my mind? will He help me with my sadness and hurt and heart pain? even when there's nothing that specifically has caused it all? can He help me love Him again?


...and so i drink wine.